I sometimes like to imagine what kind of parent I would be if we still lived in San Francisco and worked 60+ hours a week. Not like, would I be a good Mother, but rather: what choices would I make differently, given the constraints as well as the opportunities of our particular lives there? This mental exercise invariably leaves me grinning about how great my life is here in Mexico, where Gabbi & I both work from home and spend the majority of many of our days with our son, as a family.
One of the greatest gifts that Mexico has given me is time – time to do things slower, better, with more purpose. Things I might have rushed through before, or skipped altogether, out of necessity or convenience – making food from scratch, grinding fresh coffee, writing, reading, allowing myself to do nothing. Of course, having a baby takes its due toll on free time, especially of the “doing nothing” variety. But even with a wee one to tend, living here still affords me the time to make parenting choices I feel good about – choices that I might not have been willing or even interested in making were I still living in the City and working full-time, like: cloth-diapering, breastfeeding on demand, making baby food from scratch, working from home. These choices all make so much sense to me here, and though they likely would there as well, would they be practical or possible to implement and maintain?
Take making baby food, for example. No doubt there are plenty of full-time-job-having, city-dwelling Mommies out there that take on this task, but when I was working at EA, I rarely even made it home in time for dinner, so it’s hard to imagine devoting precious hours on a too-short weekend to puréeing and straining. Luckily I now have the time (most of the time) to cook when I want, and I have fun making Maxxi’s meals. I like knowing what’s going into my baby’s food, where and how it was prepared (with love of course!), and that it’s healthy and nutritious. So far, Maximo is a wonderfully adventurous and voracious eater, and seems to delight in most new flavors that grace his palette. I hear that kids start to get picky at around a year, when they begin to discover and exercise that ever-pesky free will. For now, I’m enjoy making lots of different combos for my littlest foodie to gobble up indiscriminately, and hoping that exposing him to lots of great flavors early on will make him a better eater for life.
That, I think, is just one small example of time well spent, and I’m thankful everyday to be spending my time in Mexico, living the good life con mi familia.
QM